August 25, 2013

Is Your “TO DO TODAY” List Longer Than Your Day?

Here’s the thing:  There will always be more to do, and there will always be someone willing to tell you what’s urgent, because anxiety sells news and fuels gossip and insidiously sends us out searching for answers.  When, really, the answers are inside you.  They’re waiting for you to find them. 

How the heck am I supposed to do everything that I’m supposed to do?  If you are anything like me, you have a list that will take you through March 2015, and you’re adding to it hourly.  If you’re conscientious, loving, environmentally-aware, and responsible, then you’re chided in articles, blogs, newscasts, Bible studies, teacher-parent conferences, and management how-to books:  Get up earlier, and do this important thing so that your employees/children/self will perform better, money will flow, you’ll be skinnyrichandbeautiful, and you’ll live longer (and so will your “TO DO” lists). Plus, you now have maybe 3 hours to sleep before your “must get up and meditate” alarm goes off.

Here’s the stuff I’ve read recently that I must do:  Take 27 daily supplements, do strengthtrainingaerobicspilatesyoga, meditate, study, floss, read, pray, journal,

show my husband that he means the world to me, set boundaries, send get-well casseroles, watch what I yell from the kids’ soccer game sidelines, compost, grow herbs, shop organic, get back-to-school supplies, check the homework,

watch out for hidden stress, stop hurrying (!) and ‘talk to your kids about’ whatever horror was just featured on the Today Show.  Oh, and ‘keep your friendships in working order’ so that you won’t be lonely in old age….

And, play Sudoku if you don’t want to lose your mind.  Or Scrabble.  Neither of which I love, at all. One more–make healthy home-cooked meals because they ladle trans fats over everything at restaurants.

I’ll stop now.  Since I have to get up, because sitting is now bad for your health.

What if, maybe, life weren’t meant to be so hectic?  What if you were meant to find “flow” in your daily life, inspiration in your work, and (mostly) joy in your parenting?

What if it were true that:  If I stop doing what I think I’m supposed to do, and instead do what is really joyfully important to me, then I will be happier, and so will the people who depend upon me.  ???  How might your life be different?

What if you woke up tomorrow and decided to disbelieve every “should” in your life that doesn’t really add to your joy?  What if you acted as if no one knows better than you what needs to be on your “TO DO” list?  What would it take to really believe that? 

Here’s the thing:  There will always be more to do, and there will always be someone willing to tell you what’s urgent, because anxiety sells news and fuels gossip and insidiously sends us out searching for answers.  When, really, the answers are inside you.  They’re waiting for you to find them. 

This is not yet another thing to do.  This is a call to inaction.  Find the still, small voice inside of you, and let it get louder.  I know how to help you do this:  it’s a systematic but cyclical process of challenging your thinking, because it’s your thoughts that make you crazy, resentful, bitter, stressed, or sad.  Find what is true for you, and you will thrive in your newfound freedom, and so will those you love.  Want to know more?  Get in touch here.

Must go now.  Time to meditate while jogging, journaling and eating blueberries.  NOT.